for the girl who’s still single, hasn’t quite found her best friends, is in a season of separation, or just feels lonely.

The truth about loneliness…

We all experience seasons of loneliness… and no 2 seasons of loneliness are ever the same…

you’re already a sophomore in college and you feel like you still haven’t quite found your people… all your friends are getting engaged, married, or pregnant & you’re still as single as can be… your co-workers are getting promotions, making more money than you, and seem to be fitting into the work environment perfectly while you’re not even sure you should be at this job… you come to a full house every night, but you find yourself feeling all alone because no one in your family really gets you…

Whether you find yourself physically or mentally disconnected from others, your feelings of loneliness are 100% valid and true. Loneliness is a normal, and pretty guaranteed, experience.

Some seasons of loneliness we may have even chosen or asked for… (although sometimes we forget we asked for them & this definitely doesn’t mean they’re any easier…)

maybe you made the decision to quit your job & pursue a new career because you knew you weren’t in the right field… maybe you know you’re still single because you’re choosing to wait on the guy you deserve… maybe you worked hard to set new & healthy boundaries and now find yourself alone, choosing your peace over your popularity… maybe you decided to make lifestyle changes for your health & future and your previous crowd can’t keep up with your new routines… maybe you asked the Lord to remove anyone in your life not meant for you, and He did…

Loneliness is a feeling… and while our feelings are valid, they are often not entirely true… especially when it comes to negative emotions and feelings.

The enemy wants you to believe you truly are alone & he will go to some pretty extreme lengths to make sure you feel abandoned. The truth is, though… you are not alone.

You may be separated. You may be without direction. You may be single. You may be misunderstood. You may have been abandoned. You may feel left behind. You may be physically isolated. You may be lonely… but, still, you are not truly alone.

In Isaiah 43:2 the Lord tells us that even when we go through deep waters, He will be with us. When we pass through rivers and walk through fires, He will be with us.

Feelings can be valid, without being true. Feel your feelings & then reinforce truth.

Reminders for when you feel lonely…

There are a few things “lonely” is…

& here is some scripture & a few gentle reminders for when you’re needing a little extra comfort, support, & reassurance of the Lord’s promises…

What to do in your seasons of loneliness…

Here are a few things you can do to make the most of your seasons of separation…

• draw nearer to the Lord through scripture and prayer. ask for the Lord to reveal the purpose of this season to you.
• pick up some hobbies. try new things. get comfortable doing things alone.
• visit your friends. call your family. allow those who are good for you to pour into you.
• learn to love yourself. use this season to build your self-confidence & self-worth.
  • click here to read a full list of affirmations for seasons of loneliness.
• get outside. enjoy the nice weather. move your body a little bit.
• do more of the things you already love. strengthen your skill sets.
• do a little self-reflection. be intentional with your alone time during these seasons… they won’t last forever, so make the most of them.

A prayer for the lonely…